yeah, though i can't keep my promise, i wont make it longer since the last update.
it is 2010. and now it almost the end of January, long enough from the last post.
Why i dont just write? i also think about it.
there so much thing in my mind, and i cant simply write it
so much reasons too, that makes me hard to make a note
maybe I could say "this is my weblog, and i am free to write anything,"
but still, I couldn't find the meaning of all my writing. So, it will be a 'no good for nothing' if i try to do 'whatever-writing'. Therefore i will try to post a useful note this time.
hmm, there is something psychological problem I learn about in this holiday.
I learn that a problem is tend to be relative-subjective, it depend on how you see it, where you see it.
Although, I may have already know that relativity, people may already realize it, but this time, I experienced it more.
so, from that relativity principle, we can't judge something just from our side, we have to see it from their point of view, even though it is tiring, because there is no person in the world could have same absolute understanding. But at least we try, we try to feel it. It is a way we can solve problem less painful, especially for love-problem.
Everyone has known that the most relative problem is problem that related to feeling, heart, love, sad, relationship, and the other lovey-dovey problem.
Especially love. Love is kind of strange toxic that infect us, make us feel wonderful, yet it may cause an indescriptivable pain. But, it is subjective, like i said before. Other can laugh of it, but another may collapse of it. maybe this time they are suffering, but someday they will see it as a trivial case. Such a relative problem, from subject, time, and situation.
In general, we can't understand each other well. it is my principal. when a person said "i understand you" or "i know what you feel", i will say "it's bullsh*t".
You don't know what I feel. you don't know what I think.
So, instead of saying that, better you keep silent, and give your emphatic in another manner.
people who have a problem is looking for person that they can share. they need to be listened, not to be lectured. it is something that sometimes people forget.
so, you need no confuse when found your friend suddenly cries in front of you. You no need think what word you better say. dont confuse of it, just keep calm, look at him/her and say "i hear you".
